Judge Righteous Judgement

Toxic people confuse sympathy with empathy.  Empathy means you see and feel things from anothers perspective and then judge if sympathy is warranted.  Sonetimes, out of empathy, sympathy is NOT warranted. Toxic people feel entitled to sympathy in all circumstances because of their delusions of victimization (victim complex, specialness,  exceptionalism).

Narcissism equates to the Bibilical sin of pride. Sadly, the narcissist lacks any ability of insight, even up to the point of standing before Jesus Christ, and having Him condemn them to their face declaring, "you never knew Me" and then proceeding to argue with God about it-- talking to God as if He is somehow mistaken.

So, if this is you or me, we likely have No idea.

I think the key, is to have the attitude of Jesus Christ's 11 Apostles, upon hearing Christ declare that one among them would betray Him, each asking with sincerity, "Is it I?"

This is an interesting argument for the LDS attitude about salvation/exaltation (fear and trembling) vs. the Evangelical false certainty.

“Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves.” — 2 Corinthians 13:5

Psalm 139:23–24: “Search me, O God, and know my heart… see if there be any wicked way in me.”

Lamentations 3:40: “Let us search and try our ways, and turn again to the Lord.”

James 1:22: “Be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”